Weight- and Looks-Bullied Minnesota Girls Fulfill Suicide Pact

This is so sad. Thanks to my husband for emailing the link as soon as he saw it — we’re the parents of teenage girls and are extraordinarily alarmed by the prevalence and virulence of appearance- and weight-based bullying.

These poor girls were only 14. They hadn’t even begun their mature lives, and they already decided — apparently for a long time — that they wanted nothing of this abusive world.

Settle said that her niece, Haylee, had been the victim of bullying after moving to Minnesota from Indiana with her mother and 8-year-old brother.

“She was made fun of for being overweight, her red hair,” Settle said. “She posted on my [Facebook] wall that she really wanted to come back…that the people were mean and cruel and she didn’t fit in.”

Even though Haylee wasn’t severely overweight, she was so uncomfortable about her size that she rarely ate in public at school, Settle said.

Paige was Haylee’s closest friend.

Haylee’s letter was to her mother and detailed plans for her funeral, Settle said.

“She requested everything pink and princess and butterflies,” Settle said.

“She was actually one of the most giving loving girls you would ever meet… She just loved everyone unconditionally…She couldn’t stand people to be made fun of, tortured, teased. She stood up for the underdogs and she was one herself,” Settle said.

If the Fat Acceptance movement needs to be about anything, it needs to be against a world where 14 year-olds (and 9 year-olds, and 4 year-olds) are made to feel absolutely worthless and broken for their ‘wrong’ weight.

My good wishes go out to the family and friends of these poor girls.

6 comments on “Weight- and Looks-Bullied Minnesota Girls Fulfill Suicide Pact

  1. bigliberty says:

    Oh, and like usual, folks, don’t read the comments. You wouldn’t think they’d be nasty on an article like this, but there are loads of people who are victim-blaming like it’s going out of style.

  2. vesta44 says:

    Geez, kids have enough problems to deal with in their lives without adding bullying to it, for whatever reason, but bullies pick what makes other kids “different” and zoom in on that to make life hell (been there done that, survived it, thank maude).
    My heart goes out to the family and friends of those 2 girls.

  3. notblueatall says:

    Reading this was like reading my own 14 year old story. I hated high school, didn’t fit in (though my bullying was my entire 7th grade year) and all I wanted to do was die. Reading this makes me realize how important the FA message is. Thank you for sharing. ❤

  4. richie79 says:

    Some horrible echoes here of the Laura Rhodes / Rebecca Ling case in 2004 (so pre-dating both the current vogue for ‘cyber-bullying’ and the ‘obesity epidemic’), where two teenaged girls tried to kill themselves following bullying over their weight and sexuality. Sadly young Laura succeeded and in the years that followed both high school and the wider world have become infinitely more hostile toward fat children and teens. I survived bullying which lasted throughout my childhood and beyond and can certainly relate to the feeling of ‘wanting nothing to do with this abusive world’; I hope that those promoting new anti-bullying legislation in the US that deliberately excludes weight take note, and that Michelle Obama is paying attention too.

  5. pange1223 says:

    I find this horribly sad. I refuse to go to the article & read the comments since it will only be bad for my blood pressure.

    I guess the current, trendy (and admirable in its own way) NOH8 campaign doesn’t extend to fat kids. =-(

    I’ll say a prayer for those kids and their families.

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