…but it has to be said. This kind of infighting is going to stymie the movement. It’s going to split it and make it weak. It likely already is, if the comments to that post are any clue.
I don’t understand where that kind of vitriolic racism has come from, but it’s got to stop. There’s racist remarks about nearly every group there, and equal misunderstood, one-dimensional comments about white people as there are the racist grouping WoC (women of color, which bundles everyone who isn’t “white” into a neat package). The great thing about NOT being narrowminded is that you understand you haven’t lived someone else’s life, yet you do your damned best to apply what you HAVE lived in order to understand them better. You realize that people are just people, and we’re more alike than we’re not. You don’t start spouting hateful language at people you believe are privileged because they’re one color (‘scuse me, have you lived their lives?) and you don’t start spouting “I hate PC” at people who you believed are non-privileged (‘scuse me, but they’ve heard it before!). I’m not saying that individual perspectives aren’t important to take into account. But do I go around telling everyone who’s never been in an abusive relationship that they have no idea where I’m coming from and we could never really get along because there’s a fundamental disconnect between our respective histories?
Listen, if you want to split yourself off from other people because you don’t like their skin color and what you believe comes from that skin color, just fucking say it. Stop acting like you’re some kind of martyr or hero or that others FORCE you to split off from them. This goes for the white “I’m sick of PC” -ers and the “Fat is the last acceptable form of prejudice” -ers, as well as the people who claim that, because of my skin color alone, I could never deserve to march arm-in-arm with them against the prejudice that we have in common.
I know you don’t see what you’re doing as splitting the movement, making us weaker, etc. But you are. Stop infighting, and find our common ground. If race is a sensitive subject, and for instance, some of you don’t like the fact that Dr. King is my idol because my skin color doesn’t match his, or you think that I’m some alien to your history because of my skin color, fine. You don’t have to march with me. I wish you would anyway; I don’t like that you distrust my skin color, but I’ll march with you anyway. Because we are more alike than we are different. We’ve got the most important parts of ourselves in common—we want hate to end. Our push, our characters, our minds, our UNIQUE EXPERIENCES which only ADD to our strength, THAT’S what makes us strong.
This is extremely difficult to write. I don’t like conflict, as a rule. It’s probably why I was cowed for so long by manipulative jerk after manipulative jerk. But do you know what shutting up and not standing up for myself against their abuse did for me? Fuck nothing. And I’m NOT going to stand for that kind of racism. Tara was right; we do have different histories. But she was wrong to lump me into some kind of group based on my skin color, assuming privilege, assuming experience, assuming a mindset.
It’s not white women or black women or Asian women who are splitting this movement; it’s a divisive mindset that is splitting this movement.